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Positive thinking changes everything!

In Uncategorized on July 25, 2011 at 4:26 pm

 

 

A man was lost while driving through the countryside. As he tried to reach for the map, he accidentally drove off the road into a ditch. Though he wasn’t injured, his car was stuck deep in the mud. So the man walked to a nearby farm to ask for help.

“Warwick can get you out of that ditch,” said the farmer, pointing to an old mule standing in a field. The man looked at the decrepit old mule and looked at the farmer who just stood there repeating, “Yep, old Warwick can do the job.” The man figured he had nothing to lose. The two men and the mule made their way back to the ditch. The farmer hitched the mule to the car. With a snap of the reins, he shouted, “Pull, Fred! Pull, Jack! Pull, Ted! Pull, Warwick!”

And the mule pulled that car right out of the ditch.

The man was amazed. He thanked the farmer, patted the mule, and asked, “Why did you call out all of those names before you called Warwick?”

The farmer grinned and said, “Old Warwick is just about blind. As long as he believes he’s part of a team, he doesn’t mind pulling.”

  • Keep your words positive, because your words become your actions.
  • Keep your actions positive, because your actions become your habits.
  • Keep your habits positive, because your habits become your lifestyle.
  • Keep your lifestyle positive, because your lifestyle becomes your destiny.

Mahathir Mohamad – The brave among the clownS.

In Uncategorized on July 15, 2011 at 2:11 pm

Oleh/By		:	DATO' SERI DR. MAHATHIR BIN MOHAMAD
Tempat/Venue 	: 	UNITED NATIONS, NEW YORK
Tarikh/Date 	: 	01/10/93
Tajuk/Title  	: 	THE PLENARY OF THE FORTY-EIGHTH
			SESSION OF THE UNITED NATIONS
			GENERAL ASSEMBLY 

 Mr President,
    I would like to join the other speakers in extending my
congratulations to  Your  Excellency  Ambassador  Samuel  R.
Insanally  on  your  election  as  the President of the 48th
Session of  the  United  Nations  General  Assembly.    Your
election  to  the  important  office of the President of the
General Assembly is an honour to  your  country,  with  whom
Malaysia  enjoys  warm  and  friendly relations.   With your
experience  and  ability,  I  am  confident  that  you  will
discharge  your  responsibilities  well and lead this august
assembly to a successful conclusion of its work.
2.   I would also like to express my  appreciation  of  your
predecessor H.E. Mr. Stoyan Ganev, who discharged his duties
with dedication and earnestness, and successfully guided the
efforts in revitalising the work of the General Assembly.
Mr. President,
3.     May I also take this opportunity to welcome on behalf
of Malaysia six  countries  which  have  joined  the  United
Nations  since  last fall - Andora, Czech Republic, Eritrea,
Monaco, Slovak Republic and the Republic of Macedonia. Their
membership would help in strengthening  the  United  Nations
and  in  executing  its  increasingly  complex  role  in the
maintenance of international peace  and  security,  and  the
promotion of international economic cooperation.
Mr. President,
4.      Malaysia  is  a developing third world country.   We
should, according to the stereotypical western concept of  a
third    world    country,    be    politically    unstable,
administratively incompetent and economically depressed.
5.   But we are not quite typical.   We have  actually  made
progress.    We  are  quite  stable  despite  a multi-racial
time-bomb we inherited from  our  colonial  past.    We  are
fairly competent in the running of our affairs.  Such is our
progress  that  we  actually  contemplate building buildings
which should be the preserve of our betters.
6.   And we dare to speak our minds.
7.   These are unforgiveable sins and we are reminded  every
time  that we should not be too ambitious.  We are told that
our achievements are temporary, that next year we  would  go
the  way  of  their  preconceived third world countries.  Of
course last year and the years before we were told the same.
But so far we have not obliged. We are however humbly  aware
that  nothing  is  permanent.   Our detractors may yet prove
right.
8.    That we do well and are not  in  dire  need  of  their
development  aid  is apparently not praiseworthy.  Yet, when
other developing countries perform badly they are  chastised
and  told  to  do  better,  or they would get no more aid or
loans.
9.    But we will soldier on.   We really  should  not  care
about  what  is  said  of us.   Unfortunately these negative
remarks make life that much more difficult for us.
10.  We need foreign investment.   To have them  we  need  a
reputation  for  stability,  competence  and predictability.
But when investors are told repeatedly that we are about  to
explode  in racial violence, etc., they are likely to invest
elsewhere.  Of course what is said about us is untrue, lies.
But these people apparently subscribe to the dictum, that  a
lie repeated often enough will be believed.
Mr. President,
11.    We care for the well-being of our people.  We want to
develop so as to give them a reasonable standard of  living.
But  we cannot be cowed into not speaking our minds.  If the
powerful nations do wrong, we will speak  out  against  them
even  if  they say we are unduly suspicious, that we have an
exaggerated sense of our own importance, etc.    We  can  be
belittled but we will continue to speak the truth.
12.    Here  at  the U.N. we will say what we feel we should
say.  Of course the controlled `free' Western media will not
publish it.  But the few here will hear us.  In any case  it
is  what  we achieve that counts with us.  We can do without
Western approval.
Mr. President,
13.  Four or five years ago the world  was  celebrating  the
impending  collapse  of  the  'Evil  Empire'.   The Union of
Soviet Socialist Republic was still  intact  then,  but  all
indications were that it had given up the fight; that it was
coming  to terms with its main adversaries, the countries of
the Western so-called Free World; and that the Cold War  was
drawing to a close.
14.  Peace was breaking out all over the world and there was
much  talk  of `peace dividends'.   The arms race would end,
there would be nuclear disarmament, and as the saying  goes,
the  guns  would  be turned into ploughshares.   A brave new
world would emerge:  equitable, just and prosperous.   There
would  be  no  oppression,  no  terror  and  no  poverty  or
starvation.
15.    Everyone  would  embrace  democracy  and  the  market
economy,  transiting  from  authoritarian  rule  and command
economy without any hitches.  And a global  policeman  would
see  to  it  that  every  country  stay  in line or face the
consequences.   There was no end to  the  good  things  that
would make up the 'peace dividends'.
16.    It  would  be  wrong to say that there were no 'peace
dividends'  at  all  --  the  Iran-Iraq  War,   the   Soviet
occupation  of Afghanistan, the war in Cambodia, some of the
Central    American    wars,    and    now    the    violent
Palestinian-Israeli   confrontation   and   South   Africa's
apartheid; these did get resolved, partially or  completely.
But the world has not become a safer or a better place for a
great many.
17.    The  Soviet  Union  did  not  just  become democratic
practitioners of free trade, working with the good guys  for
a better world.  It broke up into a number of republics, and
Russia  has  become  dangerously  unstable and ungovernable.
The respected great reformer  of  Perestroika  and  Glasnost
fame  has been ousted and disgraced and has been replaced by
another who seems to fare no better.
18.  The 'Evil Empire' is no more.  But the price  in  human
lives  and  displacement  of  people is very high.   And the
price is still being paid.
19.  In Georgia, Moldavia, Armenia, Azerbaijan,  Tajikistan,
much  destruction and many killings have taken place and are
still taking place.   The old economic  structure  has  been
destroyed,  but  the  new  one  is  far from being in place.
Chaos, bloody chaos, prevails in many places.
20.  Far from achieving universal peace the world is treated
to a spectacle of unparalleled brutality  by  the  Serbs  in
Bosnia-  Herzergovina.   In many countries of Europe fascism
has once again reared its ugly head.  Houses are torched and
people burned to death.  And the voters actually approved.
21.          During the Cold War days the protagonists tried
constantly to provoke uprisings against Governments  of  the
countries   they  were  opposed  to.    They  would  provide
financial and material help and the promise that they  would
protect these rebels or provide them with asylum.
22.    With  the  collapse of the communist bloc, the people
there expected help  when  they  overthrew  their  Communist
Governments and established democratic free market societies
or  they  sought  independence for their countries.  In some
instances they found  their  expectations  justified.    The
Slovenes  and  the  Croats  enjoyed  the full support of the
Europeans and were able to mould new nations.  But the Kurds
and the Bosnians learnt that they thought wrong.  It is only
coincidental that both are Muslim communities.
23.  The most tragic case  is  that  of  Bosnia-Herzegovina.
The  crime of the Muslims is that they wish for a non-Muslim
religiously  heterogenous  state.     They  were   viciously
attacked by the Serbs who openly declared that they were and
are  doing  this  to  ensure  that Europe remains Christian.
They are not prevented by the Europeans.
24.  The cruelties committed by the Serbs defy  imagination.
In  one  case, which caused officials in one of the powerful
countries of the  West  to  resign  in  protest  over  their
Government's  passivity, a six year-old child was repeatedly
raped in front of her mother who not only had to  watch  but
was  prevented  from  giving any help until the little child
died after two days of exposure.
25.  This is not an isolated incident.   Muslim  women,  old
and young and little girls were raped, brutalised and killed
by  the  tens of thousands at the hands of the Serbs and the
Croats.
26.           Hundreds of thousands of Muslims have died and
are dying and some two million have been forced to flee from
their burning towns and villages.
27.   And what do the erstwhile  champions  of  freedom  and
democracy  do?    They  actually  prevented the victims from
defending themselves.  Instead they try to force the victims
to  accept  the  partitioning   and   surrender   of   their
territories  which had been ethnically-cleansed by the Serbs
and Croats.   Thus  are  the  rapers  and  murderers  to  be
rewarded?    Only  the most gullible will still believe that
the vociferous champions of freedom and democracy will  risk
their necks for other people's freedom and democracy.
Mr President,
28.  Malaysia would like to record its satisfaction over the
acceptance  of  Malaysian troops to serve in the U.N. forces
in Bosnia-Herzegovina.  We regret, however, the exclusion of
certain Muslim countries from participating in the UNPROFOR.
Apparently the distrust of Muslims is quite widespread.
29.   Malaysians are prepared  to  serve  under  whoever  is
appointed  by  the U.N. in Bosnia-Herzegovina.  We hope that
our troops will be well-supported.  We will not  protest  if
the   U.N.  decides  to  increase  pressure  on  the  Serbs,
including  mounting  a  military  offensive,  provided   due
preparations are made.
Mr President,
30.  When we add up, the 'peace dividends' accruing from the
ending of the Cold War have not been really substantial.  If
at  all, the debit side is much bigger than the credit side.
The most glaring example is the reneging on the much  needed
development assistance to poor developing countries.
31.  Still when drawing up the balance sheet from the ending
of  the  Cold  War, one cannot but highlight two significant
items on the  credit  side.    The  recent  signing  of  the
PLO-Israeli  peace  agreement  and  that  between blacks and
whites in South Africa  must  be  regarded  as  the  biggest
achievements  of the post Cold War period.  Admittedly there
is still a great deal to be negotiated before justice can be
rendered  to  all  sides  and  before  true  peace   becomes
permanent.  But the most crucial parts are over.
32.   I would like to congratulate all the parties concerned
for their good sense and their boldness.  The extremists  on
both  sides will not be happy.  There will be more violence.
But I am sure those who are for peace and good sense will be
as brave in peace as they have been in war.
33.  I commend these accords to the good people of  Northern
Ireland.    It is brave not to surrender even one inch.  But
it takes real bravery to compromise.
Mr President,
34.  One may well ask why in the face of the much-publicised
failure of the U.S-sponsored peace talks,  there  should  be
this sudden break-through?  The answer is to be found in the
press  statements.  Good sense cannot prevail when the media
demands that statements be made by each and everyone  before
and  after  each  negotiating session.   The negotiators are
forced to make public stands, to demonstrate how tough  they
are and how they will not give in even an inch.  Having made
these  stands  they  were not able to accommodate good sense
anymore.
35.  In the peace talks in Norway there was no press.    And
good  sense  was  able  to  prevail.    There  is this great
democratic principle about the need to  know.    Do  we  all
really need to know every detail of every negotiation?  Does
every Israeli settler or Gaza strip Arab, or for that matter
every Tom, Dick and Harry in every part of the world need to
know  everything  about the negotiations?  Must Palestinians
continue  to  be killed and be
made homeless because everybody needs to know what was  said
by whom?
36.    This need for transparency, this right to information
is an invention of those who want to  make  money  from  the
information  industry.   We should know about the bestiality
of the Serbs in Bosnia so we may react.  But this  knowledge
is  largely denied us.  On the other hand, we are shown this
parade of negotiators to a peace conference day in  and  day
out.   Can the average man do anything worthwhile because he
has seen the daily TV report?
Mr. President,
37.  We live in the Information Age.   There  has  been  and
there will continue to be an unending explosion in the field
of information technology.
38.   Today we can sit in our homes and watch and hear a war
as it is being fought; witness with eyes and ears  a  beauty
contest  as  it  is  being  judged  and look at bugs under a
microscope as it swims, via the TV screen.  We see all these
as they are, where they are without a second's delay.
39.  We can watch murder as it is being  committed,  in  all
the gory details.  And we can be shocked by it.  But then we
can also watch Michael Jackson doing his 'moon-walk' even as
mass murder and massacres of the most brutal kinds are being
committed at that very moment.
40.  What we see and hear and witness, Mr President, is what
the media decide we should see and hear and witness.  If the
media  wants  us  to  be  shocked  by  the  massacre, it can
broadcast lurid details of that massacre.  But if it chooses
to broadcast Michael Jackson at the time  the  massacre  was
taking  place,  we  will  be  stomping  our  feet  in  total
enjoyment.
Mr. President,
41.  Clearly the people who decide what we  should  see  and
hear  hold  terrible power.  They can have us dancing in the
streets or they can have us  rioting  in  the  streets  with
firebrands in our hands, burning, looting and killing.
42.  Can we doubt that such people are powerful?
43.    Make  no  mistake.   The people who control the media
control  our  minds,  and  probably   control   the   world.
Presidents  can  be  made or broken by them.  And they have.
Countries can be isolated or accepted despite violations  of
human rights, depending on how the media presents them.
44.    And  who  controls the powerful world media?  Not the
national Governments of tiny developing nations.   Not  even
the  Governments  of powerful nations.  A very few people in
the west control all the  international  media.    Some  are
journalists  but quite a few are not.  Collectively they are
Big Brothers.
45.  Now they have an even more effective weapon in the form
of the worldwide TV network.  Today they  broadcast  slanted
news.    Tomorrow  they  will  broadcast  raw pornography to
corrupt our children and destroy  our  culture.    They  are
already doing that in Europe.
46.    Today we can still control the reception.  The day is
fast approaching when only a coat-hanger would be needed  to
receive TV broadcasts from across the world.
47.    We  will  have nowhere to retreat.  Already the small
nations are being accused of being undemocratic and limiting
freedom because we do not allow reception  of  international
TV  networks.  We hope it is because our accusers believe in
the freedom of the press.  But we suspect it   is    because
they monopolise  the world
media  and  they  stand  to  profit  substantially  from the
freedom they insist every nation should have.
48.  Malaysia believes in press freedom.  But that  freedom,
as  with  other  freedoms and rights, must be accompanied by
responsibility.  We will continue to  expect  the  Malaysian
media  to  be  responsible.   We will not forego the need to
enforce this responsibility.   But as to  the  international
press  we  can only hope and pray that they will realise the
damage they are doing.   We will not  interfere  with  them.
They  are  free  to  report and to write any amount of lies.
But we do hope that occasionally they cover the truth  also.
Power  corrupts.    But  power without responsibility is the
most corrupting influence of all.
Mr President,
49.    We  have  heard  often  enough  of   the   need   for
restructuring  the  U.N.    We need it because the world has
changed.  It is not the world of the  immediate  Post  World
War II that we have today.
50.   The people who plunged the world into a horrendous war
are now the good guys, telling the world how to  be  humane.
The  rapacious  invaders  of  the  past  are  now  the  good
samaritans distributing aid to the needy.  Will there always
be no room for the reformed?
51.  We talk of democracy as the only acceptable  system  of
government.    It  is  so  good  that we cannot wait for the
democratic process to bring about its  acceptance  by  every
country.    It  must  be  forced upon everyone whether it is
welcomed or not.  Yet when it comes to the  U.N.  we  eschew
democracy.   And the most undemocratic aspect of the U.N. is
the veto power of the Permanent Five.   We can  accept  some
weightage  for them, but for each of them, alone, to be more
powerful than the  whole  membership  of  the  U.N.  is  not
acceptable;  not  before,  not  now  and not for the future.
There can be for the  time  being  some  permanent  members.
But  the  veto  must  go.    A formula must be found for new
permanent members of the security council.  Whatever may  be
the  other  qualifications,  they must include a genuine and
sincere interest in international welfare.
Mr President,
52.  At the Ministerial Meeting in Vienna this year  a  more
comprehensive  definition  of  Human  Rights  was presented.
Many countries like Malaysia  were  smeared  in  Vienna  for
allegedly  refusing  to  accept  the  universality  of human
rights.  We do subscribe to the universality of human rights
but not to the irresponsible variety propounded by the West.
Human rights is not a licence to do anything without  regard
to  the  rights  of others.   The rights of the majority are
just  as  valid  as  the  rights  of  the  minority  or  the
individual.    A  society has a right to protect itself from
the  unbridled  exercise  of  rights  by  individuals  or  a
minority  which  in the West has contributed to the collapse
of morality and the structure of human society.
53.   If individual  and  minority  rights  are  so  totally
inviolable  than you must allow the resurgence of Nazism and
their violently racist activities in Europe  and  elsewhere.
But it is apparent that at least the west still think racist
violence  is  wrong.    We  hope  they will also accept that
freedom from poverty and the wish to develop  are  essential
elements  of  human rights.  Finally countries like Malaysia
must take exception  to  preachings  on  human  rights  from
people  who  willingly  condone  and to a certain degree aid
ethnic cleansing in Bosnia-Herzegovina.   Until they  redeem
themselves  there,  all  their  talks  of human rights sound
hollow.
Mr President,
54.  This litany of the woes of the developing countries and
the world may seem endless.  Actually the list is  far  from
complete.    Trade and protectionism,  aid  and debts, UNCED
and pressures on
environmental issues, antarctica and many more have not been
touched upon.
55.   The world of  the  Post  Cold  War  period  is  not  a
thoroughly  bad  place.     But for the developing countries
including Malaysia, there is  really  very  little  to  crow
about.
56.  A statement in the U.N. Assembly is not going to change
the  world.   But there is really nowhere else that the woes
of the third world can be aired.   Not to  air  them  is  to
encourage  the kind of supercilious arrogance on the part of
those who are most responsible  and  yet  still  presume  to
extoll  their  own virtues and to preach to others.  Even if
the benefit is minimal, the truth must be told sometime.
     I thank you, Mr President.

I WOULD SAY IT'S PRETTY OBVIOUS, HE IS BRAVE AND DARING.

5 Sign she wants you!

In Uncategorized on July 10, 2011 at 2:24 pm

 

In terms of figuring out how to comprehend a woman’s feelings about us when we’re trying to make the leap from “friends” to “friends who kiss,” men often overlook obvious signs. This is especially true for guys who’ve been burned in the past (and who hasn’t been?) who are wary about rejection. Maybe we’re nottotally oblivious, but we often have a difficult time reading signals. So here are a few signs she’s interested in a kiss — consider them your green light to get closer.

1. The “let’s laugh” signal
David Wygant, author of Always Talk To Strangers, is an excellent signal-reader. “If she makes you feel like a stand-up comedian, even though you’re not that funny, she wants to take it to the next level,” says Wygant. Similarly, Rosemarie of White Plains, NY, shares: “If I’m interested in a guy, I kind of tease him — I try to get a funny, bantering chat going. It shows that I’m interested in playing a bit of a cat-and-mouse game, you know? I’ll say something like, ‘I think you’re just making that up,’ or ‘Honestly now, has that line worked?’ but I say it with a big smile and eye contact so he knows I’m just joking.”

2. The tell-tale time sign
If you are friends with a woman and sometimes wonder if there might be more there, take heed of when and where she wants to hang out with you. If she wants to meet you for a quick workday lunch, chances are she doesn’t like you in the way you might hope. But if she asks you to meet her for a gallery opening in the evening or to see a movie with her on a Saturday at 8 p.m., she may be casting you in more of a boyfriend role. Says Shelly of San Diego: “I work with a lot of guys and admit to getting crushes on my coworkers from time to time. I’ll chat them up about new movies I want to see, and if one I’m interested in asks me out, I do what I can to make it at night on a weekend. That makes it so easy to grab coffee or food afterward and get to know each other on a more personal level.”

3. The body language clues
OK, so the odds of a woman reaching out to hold your hand while you’re flirting with her are slim to none. So how does she use her body to show you she’s interested? Jess from New York believes a woman’s gestures will send you the message. “Her body language will give her away — if a woman leans in toward a guy while he’s talking, mimics his body language, and maybe sneaks in a subtle touch here or there, these are pretty good signs that she’s into him. Obviously, he should get her phone number and actually call.” And how does a guy know if a woman isn’t interested? “If she is looking around the room while he’s talking to her and crossing her arms across her chest,” says Jess, “she’s probably not that interested. Also, if she tells the guy that he would be perfect for her sister or she suddenly brings up the fact that she’s been talking to her ex-boyfriend, there’s probably not a spark there.” The guy should just move on to a woman who is worth his time… or possibly take the uninterested woman up on her set-up offer.

4. The look that says “I like you”
A guy should also know what kind of eye contact is waving him in for a kiss. Direct eye contact that lasts more than a couple of seconds is a sign of interest, say the experts. And if a woman looks from your eyes to your mouth, well, things are in very, very good shape. “I don’t know if it’s conscious or not, but when I like a guy, I find my gaze wanders from his eyes to his mouth,” says Moira of St. Louis, MO. “It’s definitely a seduction move; it lets him know that I’m thinking about what it would be like to kiss him.” Gentlemen, if you’re getting that signal, this is another time you want to go ahead and get that phone number.

5. Taking the next step
Once we men realize a woman genuinely likes us, our minds are oftentimes so blown that we have no idea how to proceed. Fortunately, Wygant does: “Once she gives you these hints, you need to close the deal. Ask her to talk to you away from her friends or call her up on the phone and say, ‘You know what? I want to take you out for a nice dinner — just the two of us.’”

What if the object of your affection is a woman you’ve known as a friend for awhile? Over dinner, you have the talk, advises Wygant. “You say, ‘I’d really like to become more than friends. I’d like to start dating you. What do you think of that?’ At this point, she’s given you every single sign that this is the conversation she’s been dreaming about, and of course the answer is going to be yes.”

So it all really boils down to a two-pronged plan: pay attention and take a chance. If you focus your energy on the woman in question rather than on yourself or your surroundings (which is what you should be doing anyway), you’ll pick up more than you ever thought you could have. And if you disregard the very obvious signs — the laughing, the touching, the eye contact — and you don’t go for it, well then, you must not be into her!

Alan Goldsher’s book, Modest Mouse: A Pretty Good Read, is available now. Visit his website at http://www.AlanGoldsher.com.

A truly confident person has an aura that supercedes their looks!

In Uncategorized on July 8, 2011 at 1:55 pm

 

 

Putting an effort into looking presentable is equally important

ARE looks important? That is a question I get asked most frequently by girls interested to join the entertainment industry. The simple, no-frills answer is “Yes!”

Your face is the first thing that people notice when they lay eyes on you.

The human brain seems pre-programmed to receive a rush of pleasure from looking at something beautiful.

We are extremely partial to physically attractive people, sometimes to the point of being in awe of them.

There are wildly whispered rumours that good-looking people are treated favourably, given more opportunities and perhaps even forgiven a tad more easily when it comes to mistakes.

Some will nod in reverence, because beautiful people indeed deserve special treatment.

Others will shake their head in disgust, envy or defeat about the unfairness of it all.

On the surface (pardon the pun), looks do seem to reign, but what many people do not realise is that looks have a competitor that can, at any moment, topple it off its throne.

Confidence is by far, the more special of the two, simply because it is harder to acquire and does not wither away as time goes by.

It is assumed that confidence comes part and parcel with being good-looking, but that is more a myth than truth.

Good-looking people may be more arrogant, but they may not be more confident.

I have stunning friends who are neither arrogant nor brimming with confidence.

A truly confident person has an aura that supercedes their looks. They are able to step up to challenges unfazed, because they do not feel insecure.

When we feel vulnerable, we tend to go on the defensive. We may appear unfriendly or unkind, as we do not want to show our weaknesses.

A confident person has strength and the personality to influence yet is open and warm to anyone, anywhere and at anytime, as they do not have to make someone feel bad in order to feel good.

When you are confident, you will probably admire the talent and skills of others but not worship them, just like you will have empathy for those less fortunate yet not pity them, for you know that all human beings are equal.

Confidence is akin to a growing organism because it keeps having to balance both strength and humility.

As with any weighing scale, it sometimes tips in favour of one, and that is the main reason why true confidence is such a hard thing to acquire.

Looks are important, but confidence is even more important because it is the mother to self-esteem, faith in one’s own ability and the courage to chase after a dream.

We are all born the way we are. There is no use lamenting a flat nose or big ears — most of us are intelligent enough to understand that — yet we cannot help but feel conscious of something that makes us feel unattractive.

And there lies the secret — there is a huge difference between looks and attractiveness.

Attractiveness is a feeling, and ‘feeling’ is the most important thing for a human being.

There is little point in having a great face and body but feeling unattractive and down in the dumps.

Unless you are willing to go under the knife, you cannot change what you have been born with but you can certainly work on being attractive.

Many people seem to have the perception that being attractive is something that you either have, or you don’t. That is not true.

Some people in this world are lucky enough to roll out of bed looking perfect, but please note that they are the minority. Many people whom you find attractive have to put in some work to look that way.

What that means is that there is some hope for us to look as good as the person next to us — we just have to know what to do.

Here are some tips to looking good, and feeling good:

*Put effort into styling your hair.

People compliment my bob, and they seem to think it looks perfect all on its own. The truth is, I have to blow-dry it every time I wash my hair for it to fall like it does. It takes me a minimum of 15 minutes to do my hair every morning with the help of three to four styling products. Your hair is something that can change the way you look. A good haircut can enhance or camouflage your face shape. The same goes for guys — they look hotter when their hair is styled right.

*Take care of your skin.

This is something that my mother has been saying to me since I was in high school. Some people are born with luminescent skin, but if you are not one of the lucky ones (like me), you will have to take the time to search for skincare products that your skin responds well to and save enough money to purchase them. Whenever you get lazy with your skincare routine, just think of your friend or colleague whose skin you envy and that will keep you on track.

*Please use make-up.

Now, I understand that we all want to look ‘natural’ and ‘effortlessly good’. What we need to know is that there is only the impression of looking effortlessly good. The truth is, the majority of us look deathly pale and slightly messy (and I am not talking about the sexy out-of-bed kind of messy, because that takes a whole lot of hairspray) without a stitch of make-up. When a photo shoot calls for a ‘natural’ look, I know to expect a long time in the make-up chair. Ironic, but looking natural takes a whole lot of expert blending for the face and eyes. Please know that using make-up is not vain. It is a surefire way to look instantly more attractive. At the very least, put on some lipstick or blusher before you step out of the house.

*Please don’t use too much make-up.

There is such a thing as too much. Make-up is supposed to enhance your looks, not cover them. Check out YouTube videos for make-up tutorials or inspirations, there are professional make-up artists who give great lessons on how to create different looks for different occasions. Practice makes perfect so don’t get dejected if you don’t get it right the first few times.

*Don’t be lazy.

There is no secret potion in making you gorgeous in an instant. It is a combination of time, effort, money and the discipline of exercise and eating right to looking good, and it is a never-ending routine. No effort, no gain.

At the end of the day, it is about pleasing ourselves. Looking good lends us more confidence, and that is the only reason we should make the effort. Not for other people, just us.

 

http://thestar.com.my/news/story.asp?sec=central&file=/2011/7/6/central/9029098

Lack of time or lack of direction?

In Uncategorized on July 6, 2011 at 11:22 am

 

There’s one old saying that goes something like this

“You’re not short of time, but you’re short of direction”

After a very deep thought, i realized that this simple quotes means a lot to me and maybe to you.

We have 24 hours a day, 7 days a week and 365 day a year. It’s all the same for each one of us.

But what make us so different? Why some of us have all the time in the world and some of us  doesn’t even have time to breath? Basically, we have the same amount of time.

It’s all about direction!

Let say you want to go for a picnic. You prepare all your stuff, your car, your food and everything. But you don’t know where to go! You take quite some time to think of your destination or maybe direction. In the end, it’s already late and you have to postponed your plan. You’re going to waste another day for your picnic.

But what if you already know about your direction? I’m sure you will end up spending lesser time. You don’t have to waste another day for your picnic anymore.

The same thing goes with life. We will be much more productive if we have absolute direction in our mind. We don’t have to waste our time on anything that will not going to help us to achieve our direction.

Plan our direction wisely so that we don’t have to regret later.

School dropouts who become billionaire!

In Uncategorized on July 4, 2011 at 3:45 pm

WHAT do Steve Jobs, Michael Dell, Bill Gates, Richard Branson and Simon Cowell have in common? Other than being incredibly rich and successful, they are also drop-outs.Apple founder Jobs did one semester in college before taking his chances with the real world. So did Dell, who started his company with just US$1,000 and a short-lived college career.

Gates, the richest man in the world, is still ‘on leave’ from Harvard to run his billion-dollar company, Microsoft Corporation.

Branson didn’t finish high school but did manage to make Virgin one of the most valuable and bankable brands in the world. And before he was making Idol wannabes miserable, Cowell was just a humble mailroom boy.

Evidently, somebody forgot to tell these guys they need to score straight As first and then make a success of themselves!

Don’t get me wrong. I believe in the value of good education as much as the next person. I would be the last person to condemn a great education as my university experiences have added immensely to my personal, social and professional development.

But I also am a firm believer that getting your hands dirty on the job is perhaps far more important than a good report card. Work experience always triumphs over the classroom because people learn better while they are doing.

The common myth is that our growth and learning is mainly attributable to course work or formal training. Most people believe that about 70% of what we learn comes from training and classroom sessions. Then networking, role modelling and mentorship (about 20% of our learning) comes next and finally job experience (10% of what we learn).

And so, there is an overemphasis on classroom learning because of the belief that training is the way to enhance learning. Most corporations structure their organisations and training teams based on this belief that more classroom training means better, more learned employees.

However, based on research conducted by a number of multinationals, including General Electric, and later validated by research firms, classroom style training, in fact, accounted for only a mere 10% of real learning and growth.

In a reversal, it is on-the-job experience that develops business acumen and long-term career growth. The harder the role, the tougher the environment, the more challenging the assignments, the more you learn and grow.

Consider GE’s Financial Management Programme (FMP) which I was a part of when I was in the US, and helped to set up and manage here in Malaysia.

We put out recruitment ads for young graduates from diverse backgrounds, universities and required Grade Point Average (GPA) scores. Granted, we had some very brilliant recruits but many were also average students in whom we saw drive, potential, and a desire to make a difference in the world. And this was evident in their non-academic experiences even if their report cards were decidedly ordinary.

We picked these over some super straight A students, even turning away a seemingly brilliant Ivy League student. Today, each FMP graduate is holding a senior level position in GE offices around the world – regardless of their grades when they joined us.

How did we do it? I believe a major part of our success in churning out global leaders – and not just in Malaysia, but everywhere around the world – lies at the intent of the FMP modules, which pushes each trainee into a new job every 6 months for 2 years. And this is where real learning and growth happens – at the job and on the job.

Learning that comes from the field is invaluable as it changes based on context and situation. Each new instance is a new learning experience and a new growth opportunity.

As we look back on the Bransons, Gates, and Jobs of this world, it’s not surprising why they succeeded. They learnt their trade in the field facing new situations and learning and growing through experiences. And the more experiences they accumulated, the greater their learning and growth.

I have had 9 jobs, and a number of roles, in the 13 years I was with GE. In that time, I’ve been exposed to different industries from Oil & Gas to TV/Media to Financial Services to Aviation and Healthcare. My job functions ranged from Finance to HR to Operations to various leadership roles.

Each experience helped build my personal learning and each experience contributed to my personal growth. So, although classroom and training has its benefits, my advice is if you really want to be a leader, go out there and get those experiences – even if it means working in a dingy start-up or a company that is struggling.

Those experiences will mould you and teach you much more than you would ever gain from attending a lecture from a professor.

http://leaderonomics.com/tv/publications/articles/why-it-pays-to-get-your-hands-dirty

How I Was Able to Ace Exams Without Studying.

In Uncategorized on July 3, 2011 at 3:49 am

 

In high school, I rarely studied. Despite that, I graduated second in my class. In university, I generally studied less than an hour or two before major exams. However, over four years, my GPA always sat between an A and an A+.

Recently I had to write a law exam worth 100% of my final grade. Unfortunately, I was out of the country and didn’t get back by plane until late Sunday night. I had to write the test at 9 am Monday morning. I got an A after just one hour of review on the plane.

Right now, I’m guessing most of you think I’m just an arrogant jerk. And, if the story ended there, you would probably be right.

Why do Some People Learn Quickly?

The fact is most of my feats are relatively mundane. I’ve had a chance to meet polyglots who speak 8 languages, people who have mastered triple course loads and students who went from C or B averages to straight A+ grades while studying less than before.

The story isn’t about how great I am (I’m certainly not) or even about the fantastic accomplishments of other learners. The story is about an insight: that smart people don’t just learn better, they also learn differently.

It’s this different strategy, not just blind luck and arrogance, that separates rapid learners from those who struggle.

Most sources say that the difference in IQ scores across a group is roughly half genes and half environment. I definitely won’t discount that. Some people got a larger sip of the genetic cocktail. Some people’s parents read their kids Chaucer and tutored them in quantum mechanics.

However, despite those gifts, if rapid learners had a different strategy for learning than ordinary students, wouldn’t you want to know what it was?

The Strategy that Separates Rapid Learners

The best way to understand the strategy of rapid learners is to look at its opposite, the approach most people take: rote memorization.

Rote memorization is based on the theory that if you look at information enough times it will magically be stored inside your head.

This wouldn’t be a terrible theory if your brain were like a computer. Computers just need one attempt to store information perfectly. However, in practice rote memorization means reading information over and over again. If you had to save a file 10 times in a computer to ensure it was stored, you’d probably throw it in the garbage.

The strategy of rapid learners is different. Instead of memorizing by rote, rapid learners store information by linking ideas together. Instead of repetition, they find connections. These connections create a web of knowledge that can succeed even when you forget one part.

When you think about it, the idea that successful learners create a web has intuitive appeal. The brain isn’t a computer hard drive, with millions of bits and bytes in a linear sequence. It is an interwoven network of trillions of neurons.

Why not adopt the strategy that makes sense with the way your brain actually works?

Not a New Idea, But an Incredibly Underused Idea

This isn’t a new idea, and I certainly didn’t invent it.

Polymath, cognitive scientist and AI researcher Marvin Minsky once said:

“If you understand something in only one way, then you don’t really understand it at all. The secret of what anything means to us depends on how we’ve connected it to all other things we know.Well-connected representations let you turn ideas around in your mind, to envision things from many perspectives until you find one that works for you. And that’s what we mean by thinking!” [emphasis mine]

Benny Lewis, polyglot and speaker of 8 languages, recently took up the task of learning Thai in two months. One of his first jobs was to memorize a phonetic script (Thai has a different alphabet than English). How did he do it?

“I saw [a Thai symbol] and needed to associate it with ‘t’, I thought of a number of common words starting with t. None of the first few looked anything like it, but then I got to toe! The symbol looks pretty much like your big toe, with the circle representing the nail of the second toe (if looking at your left foot). It’s very easy to remember and very hard to forget! Now I think of t instantly when I see that symbol.

It took time, but I’ve come up with such an association for all [75] symbols. Some are funny, or nerdy, or related to sex, or something childish. Some require a ridiculous stretch of the imagination to make it work. Whatever did the job best to help me remember.”

The famous British savant Daniel Tammet has the ability to multiply 5 digit numbers in his head. He explains that he can do this because each number, to him, has a color and texture, he doesn’t just do the straight calculation, he feels it.

All of these people believe in the power of connecting ideas. Connecting ideas together, as Minsky describes. Linking ideas with familiar pictures, like Lewis. Or even blending familiar shapes and sensations with the abstract to make it more tangible as Tammet can do.

How Can You Become a Rapid Learner?

So all this sounds great, but how do you actually do it?

I’m not going to suggest you can become a Tammet, Lewis or Minsky overnight. They have spent years working on their method. And no doubt, some of their success is owed to their genetic or environmental quirks early in life.

However, after writing about these ideas for a couple years I have seen people make drastic improvements in their learning method. It takes practice, but students have contacted me letting me know they are now getting better grades with less stress, one person even credited the method for allowing him to get an exam exemption for a major test.

Some Techniques for Learning by Connections

Here are the some of the most popular tactics I’ve experimented with and suggested to other students:

1. Metaphors and Analogy

Create your own metaphors for different ideas. Differential calculus doesn’t need to just be an equation, but the odometer and speedometer on a car. Functions in computer programming can be like pencil sharpeners. The balance sheet for a corporation can be like the circulatory system.

Shakespeare used metaphor prolifically to create vivid imagery for his audience. Your professor might not be the bard, but you can step in and try them yourself.

2. Visceralization

Visceralization is a portmanteau between visceral and visualization. The goal here is to envision an abstract idea as something more tangible. Not just by imagining a picture, but by integrating sounds, textures and feelings (like Tammet does).

When learning how to find the determinant of a matrix, I visualized my hands scooping through one axis of the matrix and dropping through the other, to represent the addition and subtraction of the elements.

Realize you already do this, just maybe not to the same degree. Whenever you see a graph or pie chart for an idea, you are taking something abstract and making it more tangible. Just be creative in pushing that a step further.

3. The 5-Year Old Method

Imagine you had to explain your toughest subject to a 5-year old. Now practice that.

It may be impossible to explain thermodynamics to a first grader, but the process of explanation forces you to link ideas. How would you explain the broader concepts in simpler terms a child would understand?

4. Diagramming

Mind-mapping is becoming increasingly popular as a way of retaining information. That’s the process of starting with a central idea and brainstorming adjacent connections. But mindmapping is just the skin of the onion.

Creating diagrams or pictures can allow you to connect ideas together on paper. Instead of having linear notes, organized in a hierarchy, what if you had notes that showed the relationships between all the ideas you were learning?

5. Storytelling to Remember Numbers and Facts

Pegging is a method people have been using for years to memorize large amounts of numbers or facts. What makes it unique isn’t just that it allows people to perform amazing mental feats (although it can), but the way it allows people to remember information–by connecting the numbers to a story.

Pegging is a bit outside the scope of this article, but the basic idea is that each digit is represented by the sound of a consonant (for example: 0=c, 3=t, 4=d…). This allows you to convert any number into a string of consonants (4304 = d-t-c-d).

The system allows you to add any number of vowels in between the consonants to make nouns (d-t-c-d = dot code). You can then turn this list of nouns into a story (The dot was a code that the snake used…). Then all you need to do is remember the order of the story to get the nouns, consonants and back to the numbers.

The Way We Were Taught to Learn is Broken

Children are imaginative, creative and, in many ways, the epitome of this rapid learning strategy. Maybe it’s the current school system, or maybe it’s just a consequence of growing up, but most people eventually suppress this instinct.

The sad truth is that the formal style of learning, makes learning less enjoyable. Chemistry, mathematics, computer science or classic literature should spawn new ideas, connections in the mind, exciting possibilities. Not only the right answers for a standardized test.

The irony is that maybe if that childlike, informal way of learning came back, even just in part, perhaps more people would succeed on those very tests. Or at least enjoyed the process of learning.

http://zenhabits.net/ace-exams/


Mask of lies.

In Uncategorized on July 3, 2011 at 1:24 am

“Self-esteem is a term used in psychology to reflect a person’s overall evaluation or appraisal of his or her own worth. Self-esteem encompasses belief (for example, “I am competent”, “I am worthy”) and emotions such as triumph, despair, pride and shame. Self-esteem can apply specifically to a particular dimension (for example, “I believe I am a good writer and I feel happy about that”) or have global extent (for example, “I believe I am a bad person, and feel bad about myself in general”).”

Wikipedia.com

In layman term, self-esteem just simply means the degree of acceptance towards oneself. It means how we accept ourselves just the way we are. It means we are happy with what we have. We embrace our weaknesses and take it as a part of ourselves. We feel worthy. We stop comparing ourselves with others because we know we are special. We feel very good and we never feel inferior towards other for what they have. We love ourselves just the way we are, now and forever.

Self esteem can’t be build through designer clothes, BB, Ipad, cool friends, hot girlfriends and even heavy make-up. Self esteem are born deep inside our heart and mind when we start to accept ourselves. There are lot of people out there, always feel insecure about themselves. They always want to be like others. Psychologically, this type of people just want to be accepted by their society.They are afraid to be left behind and they will try even anything to gain acceptance. That’s why we could see some students are willing to fast just to buy expensive phone. Some use their scholarship to buy pricey clothes. Some prefer to eat in McDonald, Carl’s Junior or any other classy restaurant even though there are lot of cheap stalls near them. Some even get very picky in choosing friends. ‘Friend’ must be rich and ‘cool’ and with their own popular clique. Girls must be hot and pretty also from their own popular clique. They don’t want to have friends from Perlis, Kedah, Penang or even Kelantan because this countries’ slang suck! They will not look ‘cool’ with Kedahians or Kelantanese. Only Kl-ians (HAHAHA) could be their friends and are ‘cool’ enough for them. English would be their medium of communication regardless of their poor grammar and funny pronunciation. They keep saying ‘OMG’ over and over again because that’s the only word they know, I guess.

You can do anything you want to do in your life. It’s your right. You can buy, wear and eat anything that you want as long as you can afford to pay (or your PARENT can afford you). If you couldn’t afford to have this type of life but still you want to look ‘cool’, go ahead. Government can pay you through scholarship for your expensive phone. Your parent could give you all the money you needed after working so hard for your expensive clothes. Your friends would love to borrow you their money for your lavish meals. Everyone will help you to  be ‘cool’. Everyone want to be ‘cool’!

But what if you have no more scholarship money. What if your parent couldn’t afford to support you. What if your friends don’t want to borrow you their money. What are you going to do? You must look ‘cool’. You can steal! No one would know.

The consequent is rather terrible. Please don’t be a moron. Please accept  yourselves the way you are. Each one of us are very unique in our own way. Some are pretty, some are handsome, some are tall, some are short and the list goes on. Be proud of yourselves. Be proud of your origin, appearance and your parent.A true friend never really care where you’re from, what do you wear or speaks. They just like and accept everything about you. Don’t tell me your self worth, self-esteem and confident is dependent on other people’s perception and opinions towards you.  No one going to accept you if you can’t accept yourself. It’s easy.

Don’t try to be what you don’t want to be or not capable to be. Please accept yourselves.

Being authentic.

In Uncategorized on July 2, 2011 at 9:24 am

 

What kind of person is prepared to fight for what they believe in? What is the quality that allows us to speak up, speak our truths even when our words cause unease? Who, among us, is able to just be ourselves in any given situation? Be “ourselves”? Are you mad? That’s not how to fit into society! Haven’t we been schooled to tow the line if we wanted to be counted and recognised? Remember all the times you were criticised for being outspoken, demonised and denied affection for confronting and questioning? You know all the characteristics you’ve rejected and suppressed because they seemed too bold or foolish.
In our culture, when girls go out with boys, we’re expected to “dance”. We go one step forward, two steps back, so we don’t give the impression we’re too interested. At the same time, we put on our “best face”, hide our vulnerabilities and sensitivities, and patch over the parts of our lives that we think are flawed. We dance hoping to draw an ace and find ourselves a soulmate. At school, I observe students begin candid and carefree, only to become morose and withdrawn midway through the term. I notice how children’s unabashed enthusiasm evaporates when their parents chide them for their mistakes. At meetings, I see people get excited and yell out suggestions, only to be laughed at by their managers. Nobody likes feeling stupid or being wrong, so they decide not to risk sticking their necks out again.

Every time you are humiliated and punished for being honest and truthful, you shut off parts of yourself, didn’t you? People are quick to judge, “That’s good. That’s bad.” For safety and approval, we’ve stifled our self-expression, haven’t we? I know I’m less provocative, powerful, playful… less genuine for fear of how others would react and respond. By being this way I’ve severed myself from real connection, more laughter, more authenticity. I don’t know how much tolerance there is, but I know I’ve been more concerned with saying it nicely than saying it truthfully.

I want to inspire courage, confidence and freedom. Freedom is about being able to choose whoever and whatever we want to be at any moment in our life. How can we be free if we can’t be wrong, different or angry without feeling guilty and ashamed? Discomfort with being ourselves and expressing our truths presupposes that there’s something wrong with us. To develop confidence, can we honestly say to our children, “There’s nothing wrong with you?” How do we make them believe it? Or have you been in the habit of saying, “The problem with you is…” How authentic are we as adults? Are we portraying images of people we think we should be? All this posturing is so tiring! All this double-tracking and game-playing surely takes our attention away from our commitment to our vision and to each other. What makes a group a team? What turns a customer into a crusader? What transforms a family into a loving unit, a population into a proud nation? We are all undercover change agents, and our mission is to promote engagement, openness, connection, trust and empowerment. What a tremendous loss of capacity for this country if we continue concealing and resisting. What a tremendous loss of energy, passion and potential for each of us. My ego would say: How dare I stand up here and invite you all to a higher vision of yourselves if I am not brave or free enough to live my best life. (This would involve me being completely comfortable with myself, naturally accepting and admitting my fallibility and imperfections, and totally appreciating my gifts and talents.) My authentic self would say: Who am I not to be working my purpose? I have no qualms about acknowledging all my feelings. Let me bring forgiveness and compassion to the parts of my life that haven’t worked, courage to the areas where I’ve been afraid to risk. I’m a work-in-progress! I’m an undercover agent and my mission is love.

Read more: GET A LIFE: Being authentic http://www.nst.com.my/nst/articles/GETALIFE_Beingauthentic/Article/#ixzz1QwDr8OkP

Don’t be stupid!

In Uncategorized on July 2, 2011 at 8:35 am

BERSIH 2 rally is the new political game by our ‘beloved’  leaders. There are some  speculations about this upcoming event on this 9th of July. Some say it’s our right and they call it freedom of speech. Some are against this rally saying that it’s just another dirty work by the oppostion to manipulate Malaysian and spark chaos. I’m not really interested to prove who is wrong or who is right. After all, in the end i got nothing. None of this political dispute will bring anything good for me.

This article is just for STUDENTS!

ATTENTION TO ALL STUDENTS!

If you’re thinking of:

  1. Getting a good kick start in your career
  2. Having a more secure future

Then please stay away from this Bersih.

Why?

You may not want to be caught by police. They can jail you and even worst once you’re caught, your name will not come clean. They have this record keep  and  I don’t think you want to show this during your working interview. Every company you go will be reluctant to pick you because of this record and you can’ hide it. Maybe joining Bersih is not a big deal for you. Think again. Please don’t risk your future, it’s way more important than anything else.  In the end, when you’re in trouble, struggling to get work, Ambiga will not going to come and help you. You’re on your own.

No matter what sides are you in, please think of your future. Let the foolish go on with their foolishness, and be smart enough to laugh at them from far.